Tuesday 29 May 2007

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."
Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without
considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.
Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, hewill be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

Monday 28 May 2007

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one."
The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please."
"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singingand dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to
rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

Sunday 27 May 2007

Successful Life

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me our secret?" The
father-in-law answered in a smile,
"Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war.
We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

Nothing in life is more important than your family.

Request that u all will read this message through ur heart and notmetamorphically.
The Story goes like this..............

It's a lovely story of mother. Just read through tillthe end and let the things seep through your skin and you feel everymoment of the experience.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to takeanother woman outto dinner and a movie.
She said, "I love you, but Iknow this otherwoman loves you and would love to spend some time withyou."
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visitwas my MOTHER, whohas been a widow for 19 years, but the demandsof my work andmy three children had made it possible to visit heronly occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go outfor dinner and amovie.
"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My motheris the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or asurprise invitationis a sign of bad news.
"I thought that it wouldbe pleasant tospend some time with you," I responded."Just the two of us." She thought about it for amoment, and thensaid, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was abit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticedthat she, too,seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited inthe door with hercoat on. She had curled her hair and was wearingthe dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiledfrom a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "Itold my friendsthat I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,"she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about ourmeeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although notelegant, was very niceand cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were theFirst Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes couldonly read largeprint.Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sittingthere staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on herlips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you weresmall," she said."
Then it's time that you relax and let me return thefavor," I responded.During the dinner, we had an agreeableconversation -nothing extraordinary but catching up on recentevents of each other's life.We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at herhouse later, she said, "I'll go out with youagain, but only ifyou let me invite you." I agreed.
"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when Igot home. "Verynice. Much more so than I could have imagined," Ianswered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massiveheart attack. Ithappened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anythingfor her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurantreceipt from the same place mother and I had dined.
An attachednote said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn'tsure that I could be there;but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one foryou and the otherfor your wife. You will never know what that nightmeant for me.I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of sayingin time:"I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time thatthey deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than your family.Give them the time they deserve, because these thingscannot beput off till "some other time."

Saturday 26 May 2007

Confidence

The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.
Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment.
He saton the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save hiscompany from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him.
"I can see that something is troubling you," he said.
After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said, "I believe Ican help you."

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his handsaying, "Take this money.

Meet me here exactly one year from today, andyou can pay me back at that time.

"Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.
The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed byJohn D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!
"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized.
But instead,the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe.
Just knowingit was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save hisbusiness, he thought.
With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms ofpayment.
He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out ofdebt and making money once again.
Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check.
At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared.

But just as the executivewas about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse camerunning up and grabbed the old man.
"I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried.
"I hope he hasn't been botheringyou. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's JohnD. Rockefeller. "
And she led the old man away by the arm.
The astonished executive just stood there, stunned.

All year long he'dbeen wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half amillion dollars behind him.
Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, that hadturned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence that gave himthe power to achieve anything he went after.

Friday 25 May 2007

You are Everything To Somebody

Right now at this very minute-----------

someone is very proud of you someoneis thinking of you

someone cares about you

some one misses you

someone wants to talk to you

someone wants to be with you

someone hopes you aren't in trouble

someone is thankful for the support you have provided

some one wants to hold your hand

someone hopes everything turns out all right

someone wants you to be happy

someone wants you to find them

someone is celebrating your successes

someone wants to give you a gift

someone think you ARE a gift

someone hopes you are not too cold, or too hot

someone wants to hug you

someone loves you

someone wants to lavish you with small gifts

someone admires your strength

someone is thinking of you and smiling

someone wants to be your shoulder to cry on

someone wants to go out with you and have a lot of fun

someone thinks the world of you

someone wants to protect you

someone would do anything for you

someone wants to be forgiven

someone is grateful for your forgiveness

someone wants to laugh with you about old times

someoneremembers you and wishes you were there

someone is praising God for you

someone needs to know that your love is unconditional

somebody values your advicesomeone wants to tell you how much they care

someone wants to stay up watching old movies withyou

someone wants to share their dreams with you

someone wants to hold you in their arms

someone wants YOU to hold them in your arms

someone treasures your spiritsomeonewishes they could STOP time because ofyou

someone praises God for your friendship and love

someone can't wait to see you

someone wishes that things didn't have to change

someone loves you for who you are

someone loves the way you make them feel

someonewants to be with you

someone is hoping they can grow old with you

someone hears a song that reminds them of you

someonewants you to know they are there for you

someone is glad that you're their friend

someone wants to be your friend

someone stayed up all night thinking about you

someone is alive because of you

someone is remorseful after losing yourfriendship

someone is wishing that you would notice them

someone wants to get to know you better

someone believes that you are their soul mate

someone wants to be near you

someone misses your guidance and advice

someone values your guidance and advice

someone has faith in yousomeonetrusts you

someone needs your support

someone needs you to have faith in them

someone needs you to let them be your friend.........

Old Parents

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"
The Son replied "It is a crow".
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".
After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?"
At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow, a crow".
A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?"
This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"
A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born.
On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page.
When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :- "Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window.
My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow.
I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times.
I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".
While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.
So.. If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them.
Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, "Iwant to see my parents happy forever.
They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.
They have always showered their selfless love on me.
They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".
Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave."

Thursday 24 May 2007

Story about Gossip

Next time someone starts to spread gossip, think of this:

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"

Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Triple Filter Test."
"Triple filter?"
"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a m! oment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though,because there is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful,! why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.

Tuesday 22 May 2007

B E PATIENT

Touching story -Unknown Author

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old
son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands
into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son
to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the
boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently
said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are
my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u
wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with
someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings
often can't. Too often we fail to recognise the difference between
the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is
greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the
actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception.
One man's meat could be another man's poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on
the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearingthat, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkeyand carried it on their shoulders.It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell

into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will

everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will

be in the future.



Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is

clear..

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception.
One man's meat could be another man's poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on
the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearingthat, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkeyand carried it on their shoulders.It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell

into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will

everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will

be in the future.



Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is

clear..

Relationship

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case.
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

Sunday 20 May 2007

Father and Son: A Story that touches your heart!


Father and Son
A Story that touches your heart!
A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year-oldson waiting for him at the door...
Son: "Daddy, may I ask you a question"
Daddy: "Yeah sure, what it is?"
Son: "Dad, how much do you make an hour"
Daddy: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?"
Son: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"
Daddy: "I make Rs. 500 an hour"
"Oh", the little boy replied, with his head down.Looking up, he said, "Dad, may I please borrow Rs. 300?"
The father was furious,"if the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some moneyto buy a silly toy or other nonsense, then march yourself to your room andgo to bed.Think why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such thischildish behavior"
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy'squestions.
How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down,and started to think:
"May be there was something he really needed to buy with thatRs. 300 and he really didn't ask for money very often!"
The man went to the door of little boy's room and opened the door.
"Are you asleep, son?" He asked.
"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I've been thinking, may be I was too hard on you earlier", said the man,"It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you.Here's the Rs.300 you asked for
"The little boy sat straight up, smiling "oh thank you dad!" He yelled.
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled some crippled up notes.
The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at his father.
"Why do you want money if you already had some?" the father grumbled.
"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied.
"Daddy I have Rs. 500 now.
Can I buy an hour of your time?
Please come home early tomorrow.
I would like to have dinner with you"

MORAL
It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life.We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent sometime with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.If we die tomorrow,the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter ofdays.But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest oftheir lives.And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to ourfamily....

Thursday 17 May 2007

Nothing is Impossible: LifeWithoutLimbs

Nothing is Impossible: Life Without Limbs


Nick Vujicic is a motivational speaker and the director for Life Without Limbs, an organisation that is for the physically disabled. Nick was born in Melbourne, Australia on 4 December 1982.


Personal life


A congenital amputee from Sunnybank, Brisbane, Australia. First born child into his devoutChristian family, Nick Vujicic was born limbless, missing both arms at shoulder level, and having one small foot with two toes petruding from his left thigh. Initially his parents were devastated, however Nick turned out to be otherwise perfectly healthy.
His life was filled with difficulties and hardships. One s
uch hardship was not being able to attend a main-stream school because of his physical disability, as the law of Australia required, even though he was not mentally impaired. During his schooling, the laws were changed, and Nick was one of the first disabled students to be migrated to a mainstream school. He learned to write using the two toes on his left "foot", and a special device that slid onto his big toe to grip. He also learned to use a computer and type using the "heel and toe" method (as demonstrated in his speeches). He can also throw tennis balls, and answer the phone (also demonstrated in speeches).

Being bullied at his school, Nick grew extremely depressed, and at the age of ten, started contemplating suicide. After begging God to grow arms and legs, Nick eventually began to realise that his accomplishments were inspirational to many, and began to thank God he was alive. When he was seventeen, he started to give talks at his prayer group, and eventually starting his non-profit organisation, Life Without Limbs.

Career


Nick completed university at the age of 21, and began his travels as a motivational speaker, focusing on the topics that today's teenagers face. He also speaks in the corporate sector, however his aim is to become an international inspirational speaker, in both Christian and non-Christian venues. He regularly travels internationally to speak to Christian congregations. By the age of 25 he hopes to become financially independent, however he wishes to promote his words through shows like The Oprah Winfrey Show, as well as writing books. His first book, planned for completion by the end of 2007, is to be called 'No Arms, No Legs, No Worries!'

Wednesday 16 May 2007

Difference between Focusing on Problems and Focusing onSolutions



Case 1
When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out thatthe pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing surface).
To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million. Theydeveloped a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, inpractically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.

And what did the Russians do...??

They used a Pencil!!!

Case 2

One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the caseof the empty soap box, which happened in one of Japan's biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought asoap box that was empty.
Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly line,which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soap box went through the assembly lineempty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste,the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soap boxes that passedthrough the line to make sure they were not empty.No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent whoopeeamount to do so.
But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with thesame problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., butinstead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on,and as each soap box passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out ofthe line.

Moral
Always look for simple solutions.
Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems.
An ant can be killed in two ways......
#1) By lifting and pressing it by your hand....
#2) By Bombarding it with a missile.

We promised not to Waste food & Water - after seeing this

We promised not to Waste food & Water - after seeing this

This not comes to you as a surprise,But it's real we have them living around us and in our neighborhood today, we can change it with prayers, and always lending a helping hand to those in need.

















































This is o ne more reason why we have to thank God for the food that we can have easily. But in the otherhand... .ironicly, we still waste the food that we buy I feel very GRATEFUL for what I have today....... We are so Blessed for the wonderful works of God's hand in our life today, just think of this ............ ..













"I felt very fortunate to live in this part of the world. I promise I will never waste my food no matter how bad it can taste and how full I may be. I promise not to waste water. I pray that this little boy be alleviated from his suffering. I pray that we will be more sensitive towards the suffering in the world around us and not be blinded by our own selfish nature and interests. I hope this picture will always serve as a reminder to us about how fortunate we are and that we must never ever take things for granted. Think & look at this...when you complain about your food and the food we waste daily..." MAY ALL HUMAN BEINGS BE FREE FROM SUFFERING!!! !


Monday 14 May 2007

Value of Time

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newlyDivorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who Has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a still born.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth toA premature baby.

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one hour:
Ask the lovers who are waiting to Meet.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a personWho has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a personWho has survived an accident...

To realize
The value of one millisecond:
Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics

Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more whenyou can share it with someone special.

A Successful Relationship

A Successful Relationship
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A boy was born to a couple after 11 years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eye. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked his wife To cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and fascinated by its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died.
The mother was stunned.
She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

QUESTIONS:

1. What were the four words?
2. What is the implication of this story?


ANSWER:

The husband just said, "I Love You Darling."


The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband that is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiving attitude,selfishness, and fears.
And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

"A successful relationship requires falling in love many times -with the same person."

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