Friday 31 December 2010
The Horse and The Donkey
Merchant and Four Wives
Wealth, Success and Love
15 Laws of Life From Swami Vivekananda
30 - What Girls Feels
How to ask to increase salary
PUPPIES FOR SALE
Before and After Marriage
Trees That Wood
An Obstacle in Our Path
THE DOLL AND THE ROSE !!!
An acronym for enthusiasm
Life is a Do-It-Yourself Project
A Donkey's Story
ABCD of Happiness
Thoughts to keep in mind
Who decides destiny?
ABC of success
Why God allows pain and suffering
REASONS WHY WE LOVE A WOMAN.......
Microsoft Office Boy
The Wooden Bowl -Touching story
How to do bussiness
Be thankful for what you have and who you are.
Salty Coffee-Touching story
Love Quotes by Famous People
Best friend -Inspiring story
A Silent Love (touching love story)
A Motivational Story with Wisdom- Dreams
I KNEW YOU WOULD COME
Unconditional Love - motivating story
Saying The Right Thing While Drunk
Letter to God from a boy
Letter to a software engineer husband
Lessons from Pencil
Deep Silent Love
Express Your Love
Real Seven wonders
ABCD of Friendship
Parents are Precious
MEANING OF JUST FEW WORDS
10 Ways to Build a Good Relationship
Friday 8 October 2010
It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on everyone around her. "How could this have happened to me?" she would plead, her heart knotted with anger.
But no matter how much she cried or ranted or prayed, she knew the painful truth her sight was never going to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan's once optimistic spirit. Just getting through each day was an exercise in frustration and exhaustion. And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark.
Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all of his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again. Mark's military background had trained him well to deal with sensitive situations, and yet he knew this was the most difficult battle he would ever face.
Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city.
At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark's need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn't working - it was hectic, and costly. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry. How would she react?
Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. "I'm blind!" she responded bitterly. "How am I supposed to know where I'm going? I feel like you're abandoning me."
Mark's heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it. And that is exactly what happened.
For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. He made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip exiting the bus, or drop her briefcase.
Each morning they made the journey together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one, Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride the bus on her own. He believed in her, in the Susan he used to know before she'd lost her sight, who wasn't afraid of any challenge and who would never, ever quit.
Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend.
Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday... Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself!
On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, "Boy, I sure envy you." Susan wasn't sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year?
Curious, she asked the driver, "Why do you say that you envy me?" The driver responded, "It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are." Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and asked again, "What do you mean?"
The driver answered, "You know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady."
Tears of happiness poured down Susan's cheeks. For although she couldn't physically see him, she had always felt Mark's presence. She was lucky, so lucky, for he had given her a gift more powerful than sight, a gift she didn't need to see to believe - the gift of love that can bring light where there had been darkness.
Monday 4 October 2010
How to say “I Love You” in different languages???
Let’s See… a List with more than 125 Languages!
AFRIKAANS – ek het jou lief / ek is lief vir jou
ALBANIAN – të dua
ALSATIAN – ich hab die lieb
Dialectal ARABIC (North African) – n’bghick
Dialectal ARABIC (Eastern) – bahebbak (to a man) / bahebbik (to a woman)
Literary ARABIC – ouhibbouka (to a man) / ouhibbouki (to a woman)
ARMENIAN – yes kez siroumem
ASTURIAN – quiérote
ATTIÉ – min bou la yé
AZERI – men seni sevirem
BAMBARA – né bi fè
BASQUE – maite zaitut
BAOULE – mi klôa
BELARUSIAN – Кахаю цябе (kahaju ciabie)
BENGALI – aami tomakey bhalo basi
BERBER – righ kem
BOBO – ma kia bé nà
BOSNIAN – volim te
BRETON – karout a ran ac’hanout / da garout a ran / me az kar
BULGARIAN – обичам те
BURMESE – nga nin ko chit te
CATALAN – t’estimo
CHEYENNE – ne’mehotatse
CHINESE – wo ai ni
CORSICAN – amu tè / ti tengu caru
CROATIAN – volim te
CZECH – miluji tě
DANISH – jeg elsker dig
DIOULA – mi fê
DUTCH – ik hou van jou
ESPERANTO – mi amas vin
ESTONIAN – ma armastan sind
FAROESE – eg elski teg
FINNISH – minä rakastan sinua
FILIPINO – mahal kita
FLEMISH (WESTERN) – ‘k zien je geeren
FRENCH – je t’aime
FRISIAN – ik hâld fan dy
FRIULAN – o ti vuei ben
GALICIAN – amo-te / ámote / quero-te / quérote
GEORGIAN – me shen mikvarkhar
GERMAN – ich liebe Dich
GREEK – s’agapo
GUARANÍ – rojhayhû
GUJARATI – hun tane prem karun chhun
HAITIAN CREOLE – mwen renmen’w / mouin rinmin’w
HAWAIAN – aloha wau iā ‘oe
HEBREW – ani ohev otakh (man to a woman)/ ani ohevet otkha (woman to man)
HINDI – main tumse pyar karta hoo
HMONG – kuv hlub koj
HUNGARIAN – szeretlek
ICELANDIC – ég elska þig
INDONESIAN – saya cinta padamu / saya cinta kamu
IRISH GAELIC – tá grá agam duit
ITALIAN – ti amo
JAPANESE – aishitemasu / aishiteru (barely used) / anata ga daisuki desu (”cute”)
KABYLIAN – hamlagh-kem (man to woman) / hamlaghk (woman to man)
KANNADA – naanu ninnanna pritisutteney
KHMER – bang srolaïgn ôn (man to woman) / ôn srolaïgn bang (woman to man)
KINYARWANDA – ndagukunda
KOREAN – saranghe
KURDISH – ez te hez dikim
LAO – khoi hak tchao lai
LATIN – te amo
LATVIAN – es tevi mīlu
LEBANESE – b’hibik (man to woman) / b’hibak (woman to man)
LIGURIAN – mi te amu
LINGALA – na lingi yo
LITHUANIAN – aš tave myliu
LOW SAXON – ik hou van ju
LUXEMBOURGEOIS – ech hun dech gäer
MACEDONIAN – te sakam
MALAGASY – tiako ianao / tia anao aho (stronger)
MALAY – aku cinta padamu
MALAYALAM – enikku ninné ishtamaanu
MALTESE – inħobbok
Maldiveian- aharen kalaa dheke varah loabivey
MANX – ta graih aym ort
MAORI – kei te aroha au i a koe
MARQUESAN – hinenao au ia oe
MONGOLIAN – Би чамд хайртай (bi chamd khairtai)
MORÉ – mam nong-a fo
NAPOLETANO – t’ammo
NDEBELE – niya ku tanda
NEPALI – ma timilai prem garchhu
NORWEGIAN – jeg elsker deg
OCCITAN – t’aimi
PAPIAMENTU – mi ta stima bo
PERSIAN – dustat dâram (formal) / duset dâram (informal)
POLISH – kocham cię
PORTUGUESE – amo-te / eu te amo (Brazilian Portuguese)
PUNJABI – mein tenu pyar karda han (male speaker) / mein tenu pyar kardi han (female speaker)
QUECHUA de CUZCO – munakuyki
RAPA NUI – hanga rahi au kia koe
ROMANI – kamaù tut
ROMANIAN – te iubesc
RUSSIAN – Я тебя люблю (ia tibia lioubliou)
SAMOAN – ou te alofa ia te oe
SANGO – mbi yé mô
SARDINIAN – deo t’amo (logudorese) / deu t’amu (campidanese)
SCOTTISH GAELIC – tha gaol agam ort / tha gaol agam oirbh
SERBIAN – volim te
SESOTHO – ke ya ho rata
SHIMAORE – ni su hu vendza
SHONA – ndinokuda
SINDHI – moon khay tu saan piyar aahay
SINHALA – mama oyata aadareyi (spoken) / mama obata aadareyi (formal)
SIOUX – wastewalake
SLOVAK – ľúbim ťa / milujem ťa
SLOVENIAN – ljubim te / rad te imam (male speaker) / rada te imam (female speaker)
SOBOTA – volim te / se te volime (lit.)
SOMALI – waan ku jecelahay
SONINKÉ – na moula
SPANISH – te amo / te quiero
SUSU – ira fan ma
SWAHILI – nakupenda
SWEDISH – jag älskar dig
TAGALOG – mahal kita
TAHITIAN – ua here vau ia oe
TAJIKI – jigarata bihrum duhtari hola (man to woman) / tra lav dorum (woman to man)
TAMIL – naan unnai kaadhalikkarn
TATAR – min sine yaratam
TELUGU – nenu ninnu premisthunnanu
TETUN – hau hadomi o
TIBETAN – na kirinla gaguidou
TURKISH – seni seviyorum
TURKMEN – seni söýärin
UDMURT – mon tone jaratiśko
UKRAINIAN – Я тебе кохаю (ia tebe kohaiu)
URDU – mein tumse mohabbat karta hoon (man to woman)/ main tumse mohabbat karti hoon (woman to man) / mujhe tum se pyar heh
UZBEK – men seni sevaman / men seni yahshi ko’raman (less formal)
VENETIAN – t’amo
VIETNAMESE – anh yêu em (man to woman)/ em yêu anh (woman to man)
WALOON – (orthographe à betchfessîs) dji vs voe voltî
WELSH – rydw i’n dy garu di
WEST INDIAN CREOLE – mwen enmen
WOLOF – nob nala
XHOSA – ndiyakuthanda
YIDDISH – ich hob dir lib
YORUBA – moni ife e
ZULU – ngiyakuthanda
Friday 1 October 2010
* Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
* Memorize your favorite poem.
* Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
* When you say, “I love you”, mean it.
* When you say, “I’m sorry”, look the person in the eye.
* Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
* Believe in love at first sight.
* Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
* Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
* In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
* Don’t judge people by their relatives.
* Talk slowly but think quickly.
* When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”
* Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
* Call your mom.
* Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.
* When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
* Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
* Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
* When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
* Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
* Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
* Spend some time alone.
* Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
* Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
* Read more books and watch less TV.
* Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.
* Trust in God but lock your car.
* A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
* In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
* Read between the lines.
* Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
* Be gentle with the earth.
* Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.
* Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
* Mind your own business.
* Don’t trust a man/woman who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss.
* At least once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
* If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.
* Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
Sunday 19 September 2010
Carnegie Mellon professor Randy Pausch wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind…
In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow. May you be blessed by his insight.
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you
Wednesday 1 September 2010
Tuesday 10 August 2010
The eagle did what the prairie chickens did. It scratched in the dirt for seeds. It clucked and cackled. It never flew more than a few feet because that is what the prairie chickens did.
One day he saw an eagle flying gracefully and majestically in the open sky. He asked the prairie chickens: "What is that beautiful bird?" The chickens replied, "That is an eagle. He is an outstanding bird, but you cannot fly like him because you are just a prairie chicken."
So the eagle never gave it a second thought, believing that to be the truth. He lived the life of and died a prairie chicken, depriving himself of his heritage because of his lack of vision.
What a waste! He was born to win, but was conditioned to lose. Do not let people or situations or even yourself condition you to lose in life.
Thursday 15 July 2010
Begin your child's day with a nourishing breakfast.
Congratulate you child for doing well.
Discuss homework with your child.
Encourage your child to read.
Find a quiet place for your child to study.
Give your child responsibility.
Hug your child to build self worth.
Include your child in making simple family decisions.
Join a library with your child.
Keep your child on a schedule that includes exercise and sleep.
Limit TV viewing by selecting programs with your child.
Make the time you spend with your child special.
Notice and discuss changes in your child's behavior.
Offer to help your child organize school papers.
Provide your child with good role models.
Question the activities your child shares with friends.
Respect your child's right to have opinions different from yours.
Share an interest or a hobby with your child.
Take time to listen to your child.
Urge your child to say "NO!" to unwanted touching.
Visit places of interest with your child.
Work with your child to set up rules of behavior.
Xerox and save records or articles that benefit your child.
Yield results by encouraging your child to do better.
Zoom through these ABCs again and again!
Thursday 10 June 2010
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has each one of us in a way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret
Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?
Sunday 9 May 2010
Lessons in Management : Never Under Estimate Anyone
A young boy enters a barber shop and the barber whispers to his Customer, "This is the dumbest kid in the world. Watch while I prove it to you."
The barber puts a five cent coin in one hand and two one cent coins (1+1=2) in the other, then calls the boy over and asks, "Which do you want, son? You can take the money from any one of my palms"
The boy takes the two one cent coins and leaves.
"What did I tell you?" said the barber. "That kid never learns!"
Later, when the customer leaves, he sees the same young boy coming out of the ice cream store.
"Hey, son! May I ask you a question?
Why did you take two one cent coins instead of five cent coin?"
The boy licked his cone and replied,
"BECAUSE THE DAY I TAKE THE FIVE CENT COIN, THE GAME IS OVER"
Moral of the Story ::
When you think the other person is dumb, you are making a fool of yourself.
Monday 19 April 2010
Strength of a Man
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice. It is in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.It is in how respected he is at home.The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits..It is in how tender he touches.The strength of a man isn't how many women he's Loved by.It is in can he be true to one woman.The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.
Beauty of a Woman
The beauty of a woman Is not in the clothes she wears,The figure she carries,Or the way she combs her hair.The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes,Because that is the doorway to her heart,The place where love resides.The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,But true beauty in a womanIs reflected in her soul.It is the caring that she lovingly gives,The passion that she shows,The beauty of a womanWith passing years-only grows.Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.Love Happens Only Once.Rest is Just Life.
Saturday 20 February 2010
Some, rather most organizations reject his CV today because he has changed jobs frequently (10 in 14 years). My friend, the ‘job hopper’ (referred here as Mr. JH), does not mind it…. well he does not need to mind it at all. Having worked full-time with 10 employer companies in just 14 years gives Mr. JH the relaxing edge that most of the ‘company loyal’ employees are struggling for today. Today, Mr. JH too is laid off like some other 14-15 year experienced guys – the difference being the latter have just worked in 2-3 organizations in the same number of years. Here are the excerpts of an interview with Mr. JH:
Q: Why have you changed 10 jobs in 14 years?
A: To get financially sound and stable before getting laid off the second time.
Q: So you knew you would be laid off in the year 2009?
A: Well I was laid off first in the year 2002 due to the first global economic slowdown. I had not got a full-time job before January 2003 when the economy started looking up; so I had struggled for almost a year without job and with compromises.
Q: Which number of job was that?
A: That was my third job.
Q: So from Jan 2003 to Jan 2009, in 6 years, you have changed 8 jobs to make the count as 10 jobs in 14 years?
A: I had no other option. In my first 8 years of professional life, I had worked only for 2 organizations thinking that jobs are deserved after lot of hard work and one should stay with an employer company to justify the saying ‘employer loyalty’. But I was an idiot.
Q: Why do you say so?
A: My salary in the first 8 years went up only marginally. I could not save enough and also, I had thought that I had a ‘permanent’ job, so I need not worry about ‘what will I do if I lose my job’. I could never imagine losing a job because of economic slowdown and not because of my performance. That was January 2002.
Q: Can you brief on what happened between January 2003 and 2009.
A: Well, I had learnt my lessons of being ‘company loyal’ and not ‘money earning and saving loyal’. But then you can save enough only when you earn enough. So I shifted my loyalty towards money making and saving – I changed 8 jobs in 6 years assuring all my interviewers about my stability.
Q: So you lied to your interviewers; you had already planned to change the job for which you were being interviewed on a particular day?
A: Yes, you can change jobs only when the market is up and companies are hiring. You tell me – can I get a job now because of the slowdown? No. So one should change jobs for higher salaries only when the market is up because that is the only time when companies hire and can afford the expected salaries.
Q: What have you gained by doing such things?
A: That's the question I was waiting for. In Jan 2003, I had a fixed salary (without variables) of say Rs. X p.a. In January 2009, my salary was 8X. So assuming my salary was Rs.3 lakh p.a. in Jan 2003, my last drawn salary in Jan 2009 was Rs.24 lakh p.a. (without variable). I never bothered about variable as I had no intention to stay for 1 year and go through the appraisal process to wait for the company to give me a hike.
Q: So you decided on your own hike?
A: Yes, in 2003, I could see the slowdown coming again in future like it had happened in 2001-02. Though I was not sure by when the next slowdown would come, I was pretty sure I wanted a ‘debt-free’ life before being laid off again. So I planned my hike targets on a yearly basis without waiting for the year to complete.
Q: So are you debt-free now?
A: Yes, I earned so much by virtue of job changes for money and spent so little that today I have a loan free 2 BR flat (1200 sq.. feet) plus a loan free big car without bothering about any EMIs. I am laid off too but I do not complain at all. If I have laid off companies for money, it is OK if a company lays me off because of lack of money.
Q: Who is complaining?
A: All those guys who are not getting a job to pay their EMIs off are complaining. They had made fun of me saying I am a job hopper and do not have any company loyalty. Now I ask them what they gained by their company loyalty; they too are laid off like me and pass comments to me – why will you bother about us, you are already debt-free. They were still in the bracket of 12-14 lakh p.a. when they were laid off.
Q: What is your advice to professionals?
A: Like Narayan Murthy had said – love your job and not your company because you never know when your company will stop loving you. In the same lines, love yourself and your family needs more than the company's needs. Companies can keep coming and going; family will always remain the same. Make money for yourself first and simultaneously make money for the company, not the other way around.
Q: What is your biggest pain point with companies?
A: When a company does well, its CEO etc. will address the entire company saying, ‘well done guys, it is YOUR company, keep up the hard work, I am with you.” But when the slowdown happens and the company does not do so well, the same CEO Etc will say, “It is MY company and to save the company, I have to take tough decisions including asking people to go.” So think about your financial stability first; when you get laid off, your kids will complain to you and not your boss.
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